A Loved and Respected Man (Who Gets Laid Daily)
This question appears all over Medium, and men old and young (mostly too young to know) hold forth with myriad theories and raging manifestos about women’s impossible entitled demands.
It’s not that hard, guys. Unless you were raised by apes. It’s just not that hard. That said, a stunning number of men miss the mark. I must conclude that they’ve spent their lives taking guidance from other men. Let me help you out . . .
This is a good time to disclose that I am in love. Deeply, madly so. I have a long-term partner whom I admire, love, and respect to the moon and back. And yes, he’s a human male.
“What?!?”, you might ask? “This “man-bashing feminazi” cares for and has sex with a man? Can’t be!!” Well, I hate to burst your bubble, but many feminists who loath patriarchy love men. We love good men. Not sophomoric, sexist, ignorant, whiney, emotionally erratic, incompetence-weaponizing manchilds, but responsible, kind, self-aware, fully-adult men. We not only love good men, but we are sexually attracted to them, we admire them, and we will alter our busy lives to make lots of space for them.What does a good man look like? I suppose I’ll make a list. For the men interested only in the sex part, skip to paragraph 11, although paragraph 11 is VERY unlikely to happen for you until you’ve got paragraphs 1–10 nailed. Just sayin’.
(1) He’s a good person. My partner is kinder than I am. He’s probably a better person than I am. He cares deeply for his family and extends grace and understanding to those around him, even when they don’t deserve it. He is polite and respectful to service people and strangers. And most importantly, he is without exception kind and good to me and my child.
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