Inflationary Times Call for An Old School Love
Love relationships are tough to maintain, even in normal times. When I observe relationships struggling in these hard money times, I know a touch of old-school helps.
Old-school love is gentle, with little room for sarcasm. Per a study conducted by Dr. John Gottman for The Gottman Institute, the number one predictor of divorce is disrespect manifested as contempt.When you go old school, attention and kindness become the way of communicating your affection. How much money you have does not matter — low-to-no-cost activities have an outsized impact. These small things will make your loved ones’ days better and relieve stress.
Engage Routinely
I’m a grandmother three times over. I have young adult grandchildren at the age where they understand sex but still go “gross” if there is even a hint that grandma and grandpa could be engaging in physical contact. My sister pointed out that my honey and I are very “old school.” Thinking about her words, she was right.
We still call each other on the phone to talk when one of us is out of the house. My hubby went to assist my son with a project (pre-COVID-19). He was gone for a few days. While away, he would call me in the morning to chat, and he would call me in the evening.My grandchildren and children wanted to know why we didn’t merely text each other rather than have those messy voice discussions. I don’t think they understood. We wanted to hear the other person’s voice during the transaction.
Either an old-fashioned phone call or a newfangled text would be a pleasant surprise in the middle of the day; a lunchtime call/text provides a stress reliever or a lift to a loved one. If one of them is discouraged, they share the burden; if either or both are having an excellent day, they share…
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