Is She the One or Only Beautiful? Try This Easy Test
Are you in love — or is it infatuation? Try this simple test. It involves your calendar, time and memory.
We know from decades of experience that it truly works.
It Happened in Brooklyn, a 1947 movie starring Jimmy Durante and a young Frank Sinatra, makes this lesson hit home. We’d seen clips from this film for years — and still haven’t seen the entire movie.
We caught most of the movie — including the critical moment — on Turner Classic Movies last week, and the lesson is so timeless it must be shared. This scene is the perfect parable showing the difference between true love and being infatuated with an irresistible beauty:
The key scene from It Happened in Brooklyn shows the difference between love and infatuation
Young Sinatra is one of two characters competing for a woman, so Durante asks him the essential why.
“Why” is the crucial question of all relationships, the best way to test and assess your priority list.
Durante asks, “Are you really crazy about her?” but follows up with “Why” questions. He builds the test by asking Sinatra about the color of her eyes, the mirror to our souls.
Sinatra says, “They’re beautiful.” He knows they’re dark brown, but Durante asks, “What’s different about Annie’s?”
Sinatra says they don’t have to be different. He knows he likes them.
Then Durante asks, “How tall is she compared to you?” Sinatra isn’t sure.
So Durante asks what color nail polish she uses. And what kind of perfume? Sinatra doesn’t know, asking the elder Durante if he notices such things.
If someone really matters, you see the little things no one else sees
Durante smiles and explains, “No. I ain’t never been in love. I thought that when you was, you saw little things that…
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