What I Wish I Could Tell Younger Women About Love (And Lust)
We all have to learn our own lessons in life, love, sex, and dating. Unfortunately, none of us are born with the wisdom of knowing how to navigate most situations, feelings, or relationships.
There are so many experiences I look back on where it would have been so much better to have had some sort of foresight, advice, or knowledge that may have changed my mind regarding a particular situation.
As a grown woman, these are a few things I wish younger women out in the world could know if they’re open to hearing it.
Dating older people isn’t necessarily better
When I was 20 I started a pattern of dating much older men. At the time, of course, it was flattering to get the attention of a man who had more sexual experience and who perhaps had more interesting stories to talk about than a guy my own age.
I felt grown up. They liked me because I was intelligent beyond my years.
Right??
Not necessarily.
I just didn’t feel as though I related to guys my own age when I was 20. However, looking back, the older men I chose weren’t exactly classy intellectual types either. Nope. In fact, most of them were just charming players who had other young girlfriends on the side who were just like me.
Those older guys probably didn’t respect me more or less than someone my own age might have. In fact, those older men should have known better than to pursue someone who wasn’t even at the legal drinking age yet.
More importantly, I should have respected myself more.
That said, I did learn some lessons from those older men. I learned that very few of the older men who wanted to spend time with me actually had any intention of being in a long-term relationship. Many of them were incapable of holding down a real relationship with a mature woman their own age. Presumably, that’s why they preyed on younger girls.
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